MENS MIXED MESSAGES

When men and women feel a connection with each other they do also give out mixed messages and read messages the wrong way. However men seem to do this thing where they consistently tell the woman how much they like her but don’t seem to act on their words. This comes across as mixed messages to us women. Here is why..

  1. The woman really likes you and you know she does because usually women tend to make more effort in wanting to get know the guy.  Look at the words she may use, the hints and suggestions, these are clues to let you know that she is not playing around. However for every time she makes a suggestion to meet up with you and keep saying things like “I’m working”, “I’m not around/available”, I’ll get back to you” “I‘m in the gym”and you never do follow-up from the last conversation that she made with you then please believe she will be confused and annoyed. Women analyse nearly everything and if you are not showing her that you really do like her and making excuses but keep telling her how much you want to get know, then this is clearly mixed signals.

2. If you are linking (not 100% in a relationship) and the woman starts to feel very strongly about you and wants more than just the sexual interaction and you don’t want anything else but to link and have sex, THIS in itself is mixed messages. Imagine how she feels, loves the sex and wants more with but the guy doesn’t want more? How does that work. In the linking world a lot of women do tend to want more with their link because there is more than just sexual chemistry and actually it could work if men would stop using the term “link” as an excuse do half measures and then when they meet the woman they really want guys will give her everything that the link really wanted him.  A link to a woman is IMPORTANT she will have respect for you but more importantly you are her friend and really the man that she wants to go to when she’s low, the one she wants to go for drinks with, cinemas etc. My advice to men in this situation is actually take the time to think and analyse how your link is towards you as there could actually be clues that will prevent the mixed messages you give out or receive.

 

3. Mixed messages through social media and phone texting  is a big problem as we tend to misinterpret the message behind the messages. A lot of us in today’s world  use memes and quotes to say how we feel or what we think about another person which may come across as ‘indirect messages’ to someone in specific and this is the start of mixed messages. Imagine you are seeing someone and they write certain statuses on Facebook, use certain quotes on their whats app and you think to yourself  “Are they directing this to me?” Baring in mind that they could be finessing off someone else and you don’t know anything about it but you think it’s about you because as far you are concerned there is no problem. So you feel some way and start to respond to their “indirect messages”.  Can you see the problem here? Instead of us talking and COMMUNICATE  we would rather entertain a something that will lead to arguments and fall outs.

To prevent mixed messages and miscommunication we have to start doing the opposite and talk to each other directly. Women need to stop analysing everything a man says and men need to be more direct and honest with women that way we can move forward and focusing on the bigger picture.

 

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Hi Readers

Who has been enjoying the sun and good music to add to the heat?

I have just put another FIRE playlist for this week. Please let me know your thoughts about the playlist.

 

TAMMY RIVERA “All These Kisses

The beautiful Singer, Swimsuit Designer  TV personality of Love & Hip-Hop  Tammy Rivera recently shared what she has been working on in the studio to some of her fellow crew members whilst in Jamaica.  Tammy revealed that her songs are about her pain and love dedicated to her rapper husband Wacka Flocka.

I am very much looking forward to hearing the other songs especially the one that was heard by the other LHHA members a few weeks back. On the other hand I really like “All Of These Kisses” it makes me feel warm, like I want to lay somebody with somebody with some kisses. Big up yourself Tammy the song it HOT and has been on repeat for the past 2 weeks.

You can purchase All Of These Kisses here https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/all-these-kisses-single/id1247038600

SOCIALS

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliesangelll/?hl=en

Twitter:@MzFlame_86

Website:  www.t-rivera.com

 

 

SHYSTIE “WAKE UP”

Shystie one of the UK’s favourite female rapper is back with a brand new track called “Wake up”. This time she has teamed up with  Ads Valu who is signed to F-Block Music and has worked with Vanessa White on her E.P “Chapter 2.”

Wake Up has a nice drum and bass sound, it’s not too heavy and deep. However it will definitely have you bopping your head and tapping your foot. I like the fact that its one of those songs that will grow on you and also it’s good to hear Shystie on different sounds. I also like how distinctive she sounds.

 

SOCIALS

Buy & Stream Wake Up https://starworkmusic.lnk.to/WakeUpTW

Spotify:

Twitter: https://twitter.com/IAMSHYSTIE

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/iamshystie/

Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/iamshystie

ADS

Facebook: Adsvalu

Twitter: @adsvalu

Instagram: @adsvalu

 

VALENTINO KHAN “PUMP”

I heard “Pump” on DJ Target’s show on BBC 1xtra and I like it. I am a fan of house and Edm sounds so when I heard pump it was quite refreshing as I havent heard a quality commercial dance production in a minute. This prodcution is great to work to in the gym, at raves/parties and it just makes gassed for summer.

 

What do we know about Valentino Khan?

The producer makes everything from hip hop club anthems to dance music hits. . He has produced hip hop sounds for multi-platinum and Grammy award-winning artists such as B.o.B., T.I., Bruno Mars, 2 Chainz, Iggy Azalea, Tyga and Kid Sister.

 

SOCIALS:

“PUMP” OUT NOW: valentinokhan.fm/Pump

Stream “Pump”
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Apple Music: valentinokhan.fm/PumpAppleMusic
YouTube: valentinokhan.fm/PumpYouTube

Download “Pump”
iTunes: valentinokhan.fm/PumpiTunes
Amazon: valentinokhan.fm/PumpAmazon
Google Play: valentinokhan.fm/PumpGooglePlay
Beatport: valentinokhan.fm/PumpBeatport

FOLLOW VALENTINO KHAN:
Facebook: valentinokhan.fm/Facebook
Instagram: valentinokhan.fm/Instagram
Twitter: valentinokhan.fm/Twitter
YouTube: valentinokhan.fm/YouTube
Soundcloud: valentinokhan.fm/SoundCloud
Spotify: valentinokhan.fm/TheGoldList

 

That is your lot for this week. 3 extra bangers added to the playlist. I have so much more tunes to share that I am loving right now and I will upload them next week.

In the mean time between time please check out my new feature The T.E.A ( Time, Effort, Attention) blog which is the new relationships feature to help inspire and guide us for better relationships and for men to understand women a lot better.

ABOUT T.E.A

 

Words By Vanessa Ryan

ABOUT T.E.A

Welcome to TEA.

TEA (Time.Effort.Attention) is the new feature added to the Inspire Mysmile blog that will try to guide men to understand women better. Time, effort and attention are the 3 things that women need and want in relationships and so I was inspired to start this blog as I feel TEA is becoming a problem in today’s society.

Here’s what to expect from this blog

  • Dating tips/Etiquette
  • Linking, Dating, Friends With Benefits
  • Controlling our feelings when dating/linking someone
  • Respect
  • Bad habits & Good

Many more features will be added to TEA as we progress. 🙂

DATING ETIQUETTES

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Welcome to the TEA blog.

I wanted to make my first post about the dating stages and how first impressions are important.

There are little things that women look out for in men and I like to call them dating etiquettes.

  1. If you have both agreed on a time to meet up and the guy is running late it is courtesy to let the girl know so at least it puts her mind at ease. Do not arrive late and then tell her ‘I’m on the way’ as she will already be pissed off for at least 30 minutes and the date night will not go as planned. By the way this does apply to women as well but for some reason some guys seem to have a problem with communication.

2. EFFORT is a big thing when you both dedicate the time to get to know each other. Effort is a big thing for women from the minute the man comes in to her presence. Women tend to check out the clothes, particularly the shoes and the cologne. Believe it or not but how a man smells is very important, its kind of like a turn on or turn off thing for women.

Make the effort to compliment each other and smile. I know a lot of the time making eye contact is awkward especially if you really like the person but this is what makes dating interesting.  The communication is a big thing as well so if you struggle to find things to talk about especially on the first the date, I suggest you talk about the first time you met and find out what the attraction was and just keep the conversation simple and have light banter.

Now I wont go into too much about who pays for what as I think team work makes perfect sense and I do think you should go halves but if the guy insist on paying then that’s even better but the woman should insist on paying for the date the next time.

3. Once you have spent good time together always thank each other for enjoying each others companies.  However the most biggest thing that women love is when the guy says ‘Let me know when have got home safely’. OMG I can not let know how important those words are in every aspect of relationships, for women this makes them feel safe and that guys truly cares for her safety. To fair that initiative should be a natural thing for everyone really.

4. When you are getting to know someone there’s always that issue on how many times you should communicate with each other. If a woman is constantly on the guys line then he may think she’s clingy and just too much, however the guy doesn’t make that much effort then he either is not interested, speaking to other women or just simply busy.  To be honest there is no rule for how much you contact each other and try to find a balance. If you don’t meet up every week then at least drop a text or call each other and if you do meet up every week etc then you don’t really need to communicate that much but just send each other ‘Morning, have a nice day’ texts. Just keep it simple. Women love when guys make that small effort to just check in.

 

Remember there is no real rule but just be more aware that first impression count if you want to take dating to the next stage.

 

 

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SO YOU LIKE EACH OTHER, WHAT NEXT?

We now what we expect from each other and now we have discovered that we like each other a lot more. This is where most guys fail. Understand that just because you have told the woman that you like her, it doesn’t mean that the efforts stop.

In the first instance when a guy tells a woman that he likes her they don’t really pursue the woman properly because the woman is now thinking “What are you doing to let me know that you truly want to get know me?” As the man here is what you should do to keep her interested in you.

  1. Talk is cheap and in 2017 telling each other that you like each other IS NOT ENOUGH!! Make suggestions to meet up maybe to talk or do something interesting.

2. If you suggest to the lady “Come to my place and chill” then make that chilling time so comfortable that she leaves thinking that you are a gentleman. Guys please understand that when a woman wants to chill with you and especially whilst you are in the dating stages, she does not want to jump into bed or immediately have sex with you. THIS IS WHERE MOST OF YOU ARE FAILING. Chilling time is talking, laughing and just enjoying each others company without intercourse. Listen to what she saying about herself, her life what she likes and dislikes and just respect her wishes.

3. Making effort to meet up has to come from both. Guys stop telling the girl that you like her but yet still she is the one that makes the effort to communicate with you more than you do with her. There has to be a balance with this, take it in turns to communicate with each other.  When a woman tells a guy that she likes him and pursues  the guy, it is now up to him to show how he appreciates her efforts. This applies to both men and women.  Show love and appreciation to each other.

4. Lastly remember you don’t have to talk or see each other every day or every week. Remember you are just dating with the hope that it leads to relationships/partnerships. Give each other space and don’t be too distracted with each other to the point where you forget about your own life. You may not be sure about each yet so it is ok to have options and not give each other the full 100.

 

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NEW FAVOURITES

Hey readers,

I am happy to share to with you the latest playlist. There has been lots and lots of new songs and Ep releases just lately, lol I just can’t keep up.  I have some fresh and some tracks that has been floating on the airwaves.

LETS GET INTO IT!!

 

Bryson Tiller

 

True To Self is made up of 19 tracks including the Intro and Outro, which seems to reflect the real Bryson Tiller. Some track such as “Self Made”, “Before You Judge” and “Money problems.”  We can definitely hear Bryson deep in his feelings. I love the production on “Before You Judge.” However my favourite track is “Run Me Dry”, the minute I heard the beat, th drop and the catchy chorus I instantly knew this was THE BEST SONG on the album. I feel that Self Made is one of those albums where you literally search for the track that gets the attention immediately.

 

Follow Bryson Tiller:
Twitter: https://twitter.com/brysontiller
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BrysonTiller…
Instagram: https://instagram.com/brysontiller

Website: trapsoul.com

Self Made is now available on all usual outlets

Apple music https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/true-to-self/id1233821036

 

Akelle Charles (WSTRN)  feat Letisha Gordon & Tally  “Waiting”

This little gem has been receiving a great response since it got the first exclusive play on BBC 1xtra. I said last year that UK R&B is on the rise and there are a good handful of UK female singers that are now receiving the attention that they truly deserve. Letisha a singer/songwriter has been on the scene for a good few years as I remember seeing her perform at a live show a few years back. I know that Letisha has featured on tracks with Ghetts, Dapz On The Map and now Akelle Charles and recently supported US artist Elhae on his UK performance.

 

Follow Letisha

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/letishagordon/?hl=en

Twitter: https://twitter.com/letishagordon

Soundcloud: www.soundcloud.com/letishagordon

Vevo: https://www.vevo.com/artist/letisha-gordon

 

Follow Akelle Charles:

Twitter: https://twitter.com/AkelleWSTRN

Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/akellecharleswstrn

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/akellewstrn/?hl=en

Follow WSTRN online:
http://www.facebook.com/wstrnmusic
http://twitter.com/wstrnmusic
http://instagram.com/wstrnmusic/
http://www.wstrnmusic.com

 

 

SM Feat. Jordon King & Monique Lawz “LADY”

 

I first heard this track on the radio and I liked the chorus instantly. I’m glad to be adding it to the Inspire playlist even if it has been out for a minute. “Lady” is produced by SM   London producer / artist SM the Enigma enlists UK R&B frontrunner Jordan King.

Jordan King is one of the UK’s most hotly tipped newcomers in urban music, fusing RnB and Soul in his progressive sound.

Jordan has been able to grace stages with some of the UK and US’s hottest artists including Tinie Tempah, Lloyd, CoverDrive and Kano, so there is no doubt that in time we will be seeing and hearing even more of this multi-talented musician.

Jordan has been able to grace stages with some of the UK and US’s hottest artists including Tinie Tempah, Lloyd, CoverDrive and Kano, so there is no doubt that in time we will be seeing and hearing even more of this multi-talented musician.

Monique Lawrence “Lawz” is the uprising UK singer/songwriter who I have been hearing great things about from various tastemakers/influencers. 2015 was the year that Monique decided to tease the industry with what she’s all about with the release of her single ‘ON’, taken from the same titled debut EP via independent record label Gold Roar Music. The project featured production from Joey Dyer (Fancy, Iggy Azalea) and artist features from Ms Banks, Shystie, Johnson Orchid and Grammy Award nominated singer-songwriter Kevin McCall.

Just last year  (2016), Monique collaborated with producer and rapper Ayo Beatz to deliver the hot hip-hop anthem ‘LIVE IT UP.’ The track was selected to be part of the soundtrack for ‘The Intent,’ a UK movie written by Femi Oyeniran. Monique then followed her 2016 initial release with ‘Body Count,’ a sexy RnB number featuring Ms Banks and produced by Wez Mouria (NaughtyWords).  ‘Body Count’ became popular amongst many industry taste makers and received heavy support from the likes of BBC 1Xtra and more.

2017, Monique’s been hard at work, perfecting her craft in the studio. Creating magic with an array of UK and international producers/musicians, Monique is now gearing up for the release of her highly anticipated EP ‘Breaking The Lawz.’ The first release from the EP is U.F.U produced by Karmah Cruz.

‘Breaking The Lawz’ is scheduled for release in August 2017.

 

Follow Monique Lawz

Email: info@moniquelawrence.com

 

 

SM

Email: SMBEATS@HOTMAIL.COM

Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/prodbysm

Jordon King

Email: info@mizermillionent.com

Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/jordankinguk

Youtube: http://www.youtube.com/user/JordanKingTV

Twitter: https://twitter.com/JordanKingUK

 

Words By Vanessa Ryan

NEW FAVOURITES

 

Hi readers

The sun is out and most feel good when the sun is shining. Whats your feel good song right now? I have some banging tunes to share with you that sound so sweet.

 

 Jarreau Vandal Ft Oliver Nelson “Someone That You Love”

Jarreau is a DJ/Producer from Amsterdam and is signed the LA label Soulection. He describes his sound as RnB and soulful with hints of electronic. Which I would very much agree with.  Oliver Nelson is a singer songwriter from London. Some blog sites are comparing her vocals to Rihanna. Personally I don’t think she sounds like RiRi. Oliver clearly has her own unique vocals and it sounds so good on this track.

Find out more about Jarreau in this interview he done back in 2014.

SOCIALS

Website: http://jarreauvandal.com/

Facebook: https://facebook.com/jarreauvandal

Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/jarreauvandal

Twitter: https://twitter.com/jarreauvandal

 

 

SYD  “Know”

Syd is the lead vocalist of the soul band The Internet. Syd is making up a lot of noise with her music as she brings something different to the table. The singer/songwriter, producer/ DJ released her debut solo single “All About Me” in January of this year. It was produced by The Internet cohort Steve Lacy. Syd later released , her second solo single “Body” in anticipation for her album in collaboration with Columbia Records, Fin which was released on February 3, 2017.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Syd_(singer)

I am loving her track “Know” which is being played a lot on the airwaves. The album is sick and I would recommend all of you RnB fans to check her out.

 

 

SOCIALS

Instagramhttp://www.instagram.com/sydinternet

Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/internetsyd

Soundcloud:http://www.soundcloud.com/internetsyd

Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/internetsyd

 

Missy Eliott “I’m Better” Remix

 

Just last night Missy “Misdemeanor” Elliott put up the remix to “I’m Better” which  features Lamb and friends Lil Kim, Trina and Eve. It’s a good female line up, even Kim came with her hard bars “Your man is a dog, he chase my kitty he says my pu**y is wet.” Personally Trina and Eve excite more on this remix and I love that only Missy can pull her own song 2x on a remix. “I’m Better” came with a dance trend as nearly every street dance choreographer and dancers were imitating the badass routines.

SOCIALS

Download “I’m Better” ft. Lamb: https://missyell.io/tt/imbetter

Follow Missy Elliott:
http://www.missy-elliott.com
http://www.twitter.com/missyelliott
https://www.instagram.com/missymisdem…
http://www.facebook.com/missyelliott
http://www.youtube.com/missyelliott
http://soundcloud.com/missyelliott

 

Words By Vanessa Ryan