When men and women feel a connection with each other they do also give out mixed messages and read messages the wrong way. However men seem to do this thing where they consistently tell the woman how much they like her but don’t seem to act on their words. This comes across as mixed messages to us women. Here is why..
- The woman really likes you and you know she does because usually women tend to make more effort in wanting to get know the guy. Look at the words she may use, the hints and suggestions, these are clues to let you know that she is not playing around. However for every time she makes a suggestion to meet up with you and keep saying things like “I’m working”, “I’m not around/available”, I’ll get back to you” “I‘m in the gym”and you never do follow-up from the last conversation that she made with you then please believe she will be confused and annoyed. Women analyse nearly everything and if you are not showing her that you really do like her and making excuses but keep telling her how much you want to get know, then this is clearly mixed signals.
2. If you are linking (not 100% in a relationship) and the woman starts to feel very strongly about you and wants more than just the sexual interaction and you don’t want anything else but to link and have sex, THIS in itself is mixed messages. Imagine how she feels, loves the sex and wants more with but the guy doesn’t want more? How does that work. In the linking world a lot of women do tend to want more with their link because there is more than just sexual chemistry and actually it could work if men would stop using the term “link” as an excuse do half measures and then when they meet the woman they really want guys will give her everything that the link really wanted him. A link to a woman is IMPORTANT she will have respect for you but more importantly you are her friend and really the man that she wants to go to when she’s low, the one she wants to go for drinks with, cinemas etc. My advice to men in this situation is actually take the time to think and analyse how your link is towards you as there could actually be clues that will prevent the mixed messages you give out or receive.
3. Mixed messages through social media and phone texting is a big problem as we tend to misinterpret the message behind the messages. A lot of us in today’s world use memes and quotes to say how we feel or what we think about another person which may come across as ‘indirect messages’ to someone in specific and this is the start of mixed messages. Imagine you are seeing someone and they write certain statuses on Facebook, use certain quotes on their whats app and you think to yourself “Are they directing this to me?” Baring in mind that they could be finessing off someone else and you don’t know anything about it but you think it’s about you because as far you are concerned there is no problem. So you feel some way and start to respond to their “indirect messages”. Can you see the problem here? Instead of us talking and COMMUNICATE we would rather entertain a something that will lead to arguments and fall outs.
To prevent mixed messages and miscommunication we have to start doing the opposite and talk to each other directly. Women need to stop analysing everything a man says and men need to be more direct and honest with women that way we can move forward and focusing on the bigger picture.
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