Thank you for reading the first instalment of Man Dem with Dayo. It sparked more interest to Inspire Mysmile from readers worldwide. If you havent read the interview you can here “MANDEM” GETTING TO KNOW DAYO.
The 2nd instalment comes from Joss Simmons who I’ve known as DJ Simmons from the “house”circuit and we’ve always kept in contact via social media. As the years have passed little did I know that he is also a fantastic ‘manny’ and worked in Child Care. The more Joss spoke out more about his profession it sparked more interest and I guess more clients as they heard about his services and skills he has with children. Whats more unique is that he is a man in a role that’s usually associated with women. In a sense he is breaking several stereotypes by encouraging more men in to child care. Joss has also featured on numerous blogs and podcasts and is an ambassador for Free your Mind.
Joss has now established his business “Jossy Care” and still DJs.
Joss…. I’m now 30 years old, but before I reached this milestone one day I found grey hairs in my beard and I just here thinking how and why?
I’ve always had a love for music I have old ears and I’m often caught listening to Gil Scott Heron,Dennis Brown and even Starvue. As a teenager I was fascinated with UKG and I thought I was the 3rd member of “Heartless Crew”. I was also their biggest fan lol. These 3 guys made me fall in love with UKG and pirate radio but it was my mum and godmother who introduced me to garage, the sounds of Tuff Jam, DJ Spoony and Todd Edwards etc. This is where my love for music built me up to wanting to become a DJ. Over the years I’ve ventured from UKG on vinyl and grew up on grime then matured to house using CDJS or a laptop.
That’s the sound I now play from the heart. Its taken me to every nightclub in London, as well as Ibiza and has had me organising my own events with other like-minded DJ’s and promoters. Whilst doing the DJ thing I also dabbled in retail from working for McDonalds to Harrods, JD Sports, Next and even Tesco’s as well as office work.
I give thanks to my mother for helping me find a career path by showing me an advert for a job in a nursery.
At the time I was volunteering in my little brothers school and nursery before hand. I applied for the role my mum found in the newspaper and got the job on the spot. It’s during my time at that nursery that I found that working with children was for me and god given role. I’ve now been working in childcare for over 10 years and I can honestly say its changed my life and helped me become a loving, patient, grateful and honest soul.
I’ve worked in care homes with teenagers that suffer from mental health as well as ex or repeat offenders. Youth clubs doing mentoring and DJ work shops, managing a nursery as well as being a room leader, a family co-coordinator running mother and baby groups to now owning a small babysitting and nanny service that supplies male and female child carers . Its only at the age of 29 that I was made aware by my GP that I had depression and anxiety due to childhood trauma and self-inflicted things whilst growing up lifestyle, relationships not knowing ones self etc.
Now I’m at a stage of finding coping mechanisms and realising this journey is for me and me alone. But its this new journey that has opened doors for me and I can now say I’m a public speaker on domestic violence and men’s mental health. And I’m owning it yes Me Joss Aquesi Cambridge – Simmons.
It’s so humbling and admiring to see growth. I also love that he encourages self-love to women as well sharing his day-to-day activities with the children he cares for. I am so glad that I have finally featured Joss on Inspire Mysmile as it been a long time coming.
Listen to Joss on Cut The Chat Podcast: : https://soundcloud.com/cutthechat/ep-67-man-like-joss
For more info about Jossy Care
FOR MUSIC/EVENTS INFO
Thank you Joss for sharing your journey, being humble and allowing me to feature your story on here.
Words by Joss Simmons
Edited by Vanessa Ryan